I think knowledge is the key.
My son’s father dated a bipolar girl. My introduction to her was a text saying, “when I see your son, I’m going to hurt him”. My son was three years old. I showed it to his dad, but dad claimed he didn’t know the number it was from. That weekend, bipolar girl shoved my son into a closet door. At ten, my son still has a scar on his forehead.
It soon escalated to the girlfriend stalking me, texting repeatedly (I had three phones at one point since I was court ordered to give my son’s dad my phone number.) I received almost 400 emails in a 24 hour period from bipolar girl — after she had shut off my son’s dad’s phone while he had my son.
I now think that, with help, and without my son’s dad egging on her moods, things might have been different.
But they weren’t.
I was harassed, my son beaten and scarred, and the courts and children’s services did nothing.